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Real Talk: sometimes being single and a wedding photographer s-u-c-k-s.
DON’T CLOSE THE BROWSER! I’m NOT gonna be a Debbie Downer, I swear! Yet, this blog is probably going to address the secret that the Secret Society of Single Photographers know inherently: sometimes it sucks. Recently, I was at a gorgeous wedding where the couple was so well suited it made my teeth ache in the sweetness. I usually go through wedding days clicking away, smiling broadly (genuinely!) and just loving my job. But there is always a moment that I get misty eyed 7 out of 10 times: the first dance. I won’t deny it…I’m totally lumpy-throated, misty eyed, and kind of sad. Usually, the first dance is a happy, singular moment in the wedding day the couple gets together, to really show everyone how deeply in love they are. They smile, giggle, and cry, moving together for a song.
Now, this is also the time in my day I fucking LOVE MY JOB THE MOST. I nail the shots and I cannot wait to show my clients the gorgeous photos of their day. I want to thrust the camera towards them and say, “I GOT A TEAR COMING DOWN YOUR FACE. I WIN. YOU WIN. WE ALL FREAKIN WINNNN!” But for two minutes, I have a camera up to my face so no one can see me cry (that and I have a job to do…)
See, I believe in love. Sure, tons of photographers say, “I looooove love” (can you sense my sarcasm?) but I just plain believe in it. I truly, deeply, believe that everyone deserves love. It lifts you up, makes you softer yet sharper, energizes yet relaxes, building a pressure of happiness inside your chest, until you feel like your heart might explode. It’s exciting yet scary. Thrilling, yet absolutely terrifying. It is the greatest thing on this damn planet and everyone deserves that.
I’m sad because I don’t have it. Lord knows I’ve searched for it. I have found it, briefly, in a couple people, but nothing that is true and lasting. This is the dilemma that single wedding photographers find themselves in: we believe in you, in your real love. We just want some of the love pie. Just a slice. We aren’t greedy.
The funny thing of this is that the majority of photographers, especially photography teams, are married! Yet, there is a small percentage (I’m making this up, but I bet about only 10% of wedding photographers are single) of us that ride into the sunset solo. We are the ones who gleefully and guilt free work 14 hours a day, and take naps without apologies. We go drink with our clients and smile at the cute wedding party member, because we can. We are a rare breed, having to explain to dates why we “can’t go get drinks on Friday…or Saturday. For the entire summer…” And sometimes, weddings are hard and sad for us.
Personally, I’m holding out for a handsome fella who is a photographer, traveler, sharp-witted and intelligent. Since I’ll be forever alone, I want to take a moment to raise my glass to my fellow single photographers. We brave the war zones of weddings, we sleep alone during wedding season and really, trying to mentally Photoshop your date is exhausting (if only you could spot remove unibrows…).
So you see, my dear reader, being a single wedding photographer has its trials and tribulations. I’m just convinced that we’re that much more dedicated to real love and especially to you. It takes a strong person to be single and photograph true love every week. So if you’re getting married and your photographer is single, just know she loves wine, gift cards to REI and hugs.